In My Husband’s Eyes

My husband and I recently heard the song, “Perfect” by Ed Sherran. The lyrics contain the words, “I saw my future in your eyes.”

I was 19 years old one week before my husband and I married. He was an older man, three months older than me.  We dated for three months before we married.

Young, excited, in love…wonderful time in my life; and terrifying, too.

I was a very protected only daughter raised in a nurturing Christian home. My brother, five years older, always helped my parents “watch out” for me. This was the first time my plan for the future clashed with my family’s dreams for my life. They hardly knew this man I had chosen, but they loved me, and the wedding date was scheduled.  I can only imagine the prayers God heard from them during this period of time.

I definitely remember the prayer I prayed the night before my wedding day. “Please, Father, stop this wedding if it’s not meant to be.” I had faith that my Heavenly Father loved me. I knew He heard my prayer, and I truly trusted Him to somehow stop me if I was heading in the wrong direction. I realize, looking back, that prayer was not one I would want to know one of my children prayed before making a life commitment, but at that particular time in my walk with the Lord, that’s all I knew to pray.

On a rainy Saturday afternoon, as Dad and I were preparing to walk around the corner and down the aisle, the happy butterflies in my stomach became huge knots of anxiety. “What was I thinking? What am I doing here?” I whispered to my dad, “Hey, if I punch you in the side, like this…, that means turn around and get me out of here!” He just said, “Okay, Sister.”

One step, two steps, three…and then I turned the corner and saw him; the man I loved. Immediately, the butterflies took away the anxiety and I could barely stop myself from running down that aisle.

We’ve been married 46 years. A few weeks ago, I tried explaining to my friend what I felt when I saw my intended waiting for me in the front of the church. “When I saw him, I saw ‘home’ – where I belonged – with him, wherever he was, for the rest of our lives.”

Today, listening to the words of the song, I understood.

God had allowed me to see my future in my soon-to-be husband’s eyes.




About dorissavanover

Wife, mom, mom-in-law, and grandma, I write stories of everyday blessings - those ordinary moments that become extraordinary when we become aware of being in God's awesome presence. Recently retired, I enjoyed twenty-eight years of employment as an executive assistant to a commercial real estate broker. I'm excited to have more time to write and share the wonders of living an abundantly fulfilling life; a life of having a real relationship with Jesus Christ, our Savior, the Son of our very loving Heavenly Father.
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3 Responses to In My Husband’s Eyes

  1. Oh Doris, I love these beautiful words: “I saw ‘home’ – where I belonged – with him, wherever he was, for the rest of our lives.” So well put. And the greater beauty is when you still feel this (like we both do) after many years of marriage! What a gift! Mario and knew each exactly 1 month before we married, and we’ve done 41 years so far! Our stories are similar!


    • We are indeed blessed, Sheila, and I love hearing that you and Mario knew so quickly, too! We had people say, “it can’t last” and it makes us both laugh, thinking, well, we’ve had lots of good years so far…! Of course, to God be the thanks for bringing us together and blessing our marriage.


  2. T. R. Noble says:

    ❤ There were certain things about my wedding that made me nervous, but never my husband to be. The day we got married was our 8th year anniversary of being together. We were high school sweethearts, we experienced long distance, and he had a lot of growing up to become the man I would marry. I had growing up as well 🙂

    God protected us and guided us in so many ways. I wasn't even able to spend our second year of marriage together because he had a year tour in South Korea, I spent a year living in our small apartment. He strengthened our marriage through the distance.

    God is good.

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